When It Simply Doesn’t Hurt Anymore

Years ago, I was describing to a friend a moment of freedom I had felt after healing from a deep pain from my past.

She looked at me, confused, and said something like:
“But aren’t you just convincing yourself not to feel that way? Aren’t you kind of lying to yourself about how it hurt you?”

And I remember pausing, because I didn’t have the language back then to explain what had happened. All I knew was that something inside me had shifted, and the thing that used to feel like a heavy, hot weight in my chest… just didn’t anymore.

It’s easy to mistake emotional liberation for avoidance, but there is a huge difference between bypassing pain and releasing it.

Bypassing looks like pretending.
It looks like repeating affirmations you don’t believe. Like talking yourself out of your feelings while your body is still screaming.

It intensifies the entanglement and traps the energy in your system until it bubbles up again, begging for release.

But what I experienced wasn’t bypass.
It was integration.
Real vibrational release.

I didn’t try to “think positively.” I wasn’t rewriting the story with false cheer.
I did something from within—before I even had words for it.
And that something dissolved the emotional frequency of the memory.

Not the memory itself.
But the pain signature attached to it.

I didn’t decide not to be angry or sad.
I simply wasn’t angry or sad anymore.
It didn’t occur to me to be.
The thought, the judgment, the sting... it had dissolved.

This is what people don’t understand about true energetic healing.
You don’t just cope with your wounds better.
They actually stop running your system.

And here's the most beautiful part:

Once that old pain dissolves, once the memory is no longer entangled in your nervous system or energetic field, something else becomes possible.

Your energetic field becomes clearer, and this freshly rewired nervous system comes online.

And from that space, love can reach you. Wealth can find you. Success can flow. Not because you earned it through suffering, but because your frequency can finally hold it.

What you desire isn’t blocked by the universe.

It’s just waiting for you to become a match.

And when the past no longer runs the show, you finally are.

In sovereign pleasure,
Sharon

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