What I Learned About Unconditional Love (That Changes Everything)
I think I finally understand something that’s been confusing me for years.
It has to do with unconditional love—and the way I used to think I had to balance it with having boundaries.
I couldn’t quite reconcile how I could love someone without conditions and still protect myself when they showed up in ways that didn’t feel good. I thought BOUNDARIES were the answer. That I needed to keep certain people at arm’s length in order to love them, and MYSELF safely.
But something clicked recently. And it went deeper than anything I’ve ever felt before.
It’s this:
I don’t need to PROTECT myself.
Not because I’m invincible—but because I’m no longer seeing love through the lens of victim.
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When we’re operating from victim consciousness—even subtly—we treat people’s choices as something we need to defend against.
We build walls.
We call it “boundaries.”
But what we often mean is: “I feel powerless, and I need space to feel safe.”
That’s not wrong—it’s just incomplete.
Because when I’m rooted in my sovereignty, there’s no need to defend anything.
There’s just clarity.
I don’t need to draw a line—I simply choose.
I remove myself.
I redirect.
I honor what’s true for me.
Not from fear, but from devotion to myself.
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Unconditional love doesn’t mean I have to stay.
It doesn’t mean I allow everything.
It means I can love someone exactly where they are, even if they’re choosing fear over growth. Even if they can’t come with me.
I can love them—without abandoning myself.
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Real safety doesn’t come from walls. It comes from self-trust.
From knowing I will always choose me.
Without needing to close my heart to do it.
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This isn’t guardedness.
This is SELF-HONOR.
And from that place—
I can finally love without needing anything in return.
In sovereign and unconditional love,
Sharon
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