Flirting With the Moment (and Letting That Be Enough)

I recently met someone who landed in my field with that unmistakable feeling of recognition.

The kind that feels ancient, immediate, a little destabilizing for both people.

There was chemistry. Presence. A charge that didn’t need to be manufactured. We spent an evening cuddling together that confirmed what we both already felt. I’ve written about that part elsewhere.

What surprised me more was what came after.

Only days after we met, we realized we’d both be in Austin the same weekend. Separate commitments. Separate lives. But the timing alone was enough to spark that familiar human reflex: maybe this means something.

We texted. We flirted. We got to know each other in that slow, delicious way where curiosity builds rather than collapses. The possibility of seeing each other again hovered like a low hum in the background.

It began to feel inevitable. Like something we were supposed to make happen.

And then, very simply, it didn’t.

Schedules didn’t quite line up. We looked at the logistics honestly, without fantasy, without forcing, and named what was true: we wouldn’t see each other.

What shocked me was what didn’t happen.

There was no disappointment spiral or sense of loss. No contraction.

Instead, I noticed how fed I already was.

The communication.
The attunement.
The embodied presence we brought to each exchange.

My body had been receiving the entire time.

This reminded me of something I’ve been living into more and more lately: pleasure doesn’t only live at the end of an experience. It lives in how we are available to receive while something is unfolding.

Most people unconsciously delay their aliveness. They wait for the payoff. The consummation. The outcome that “justifies” the feeling.

We’re taught that anticipation is incomplete, that chemistry must be realized, that desire unfulfilled is somehow lacking.

But what if the opposite is true?

What if anticipation, presence, curiosity, and embodied attention didn’t have to be appetizers, but nourishment in their own right?

What I realized in this experience is that my pleasure bandwidth has expanded.

I can receive the full spectrum of aliveness through:
• conversation
• imagination
• sensation
• emotional resonance
• energetic attunement

My body doesn’t need to be rushed to the “next step” to feel satisfied.

And yes, a physical meeting might deepen or amplify what’s already there. I’m not denying that. But what’s new for me is this:

I’m no longer outsourcing my pleasure to the future.

This is what it means to live turned on in the moment.

Not hyper-aroused.
Not chasing sensation.
But fully inhabiting the magical vessel of the body as it receives life through all available channels:

Sight
Sound
Emotion
Imagination
Subtle energy

When we allow ourselves to register pleasure at every layer, life stops feeling like a waiting room. Moments become complete experiences. Desire becomes nourishing instead of destabilizing. Connection becomes something we feel, not something we chase.

This is a skill and a practice. A way of relating to life itself.

And it’s something I’m teaching more intentionally now.

There’s a new container opening soon, and it’s designed for those who are ready to expand how much aliveness they can receive.

If you feel the nudge, you can message me directly. Not everything is meant to be announced publicly.

In sovereign delight,
-Sharon Marie Scott